Updated: Jul 8, 2022
This month I sat down with my best friend, community organizer, dedicated advocate for Black trans people and co-host of Discourse, Eli! We talked about “healthy” relationships and all the ways we be out here moving fucked up lol and, of course, offered some tips for unpacking and being accountable.
Here are a few of the questions we answered:
I’ve had 3 arguments with my wife in 4 years. Is that a good thing?
What is the best way to hold your partner accountable when they make a mistake?
Does every relationship come with a little toxicity?
How does someone who is not used to healthy intimacy welcome it into their life?
Link to full video with Eli: https://bit.ly/3bx8iZN
And here are the resources we referenced
re: communication/conflict, prison abolition and identity politics.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair by Sarah Schulman
Mariame Kaba re: prison abolition and Combahee River Collective re: identity politics